Following up my last Twitter thread about Discipline, here I’m going to lay everything you should know about that subject.
If you haven’t read said post, refer to it here
You know Discipline is important, you know you lack it and you want to improve that aspect of your life. Well done. You’re in the right place!
In a world where Instant gratification and Procrastination thrive, being disciplined really sets you apart!
So how do you become more disciplined?
For my system to work, you should already have a foundation, or you wouldn’t be able to follow it.
For the foundation, I recommend the magnificent program of Hunter Drew – 31 Days to Masculinity, get it here ( https://amzn.to/2xYUBn5 )
Note – It was written for men, but women could benefit from it as well.
My system consists of 6 parts, each plays an important role in cultivating Self-Discipline.
1- Why would you want to be more Disciplined?
Having a ‘Why’ is super important. What do you want to be disciplined for? General discipline? Better self-control? Achieving a certain goal?
By answering that question, you can find the solution and the power within you to follow through
I want to be disciplined enough so I could be consistent with my training.
We have a goal, we have a problem, and we also know what the solution is, right? (Consistently training).
Therefore, we know why what we need the discipline for, and it’s going to be easier to work through it.
2- Establish a Goal
Now you know why you need discipline for, but you need to refine it and make it clearer.
‘I want to be disciplined to consistently train’ is nice, but it’s not a goal.
A Goal has a clear end, you know exactly what you want to achieve and when you achieve that.
If we refer back to the previous example, you could say “But I don’t have a specific goal, I just want to be able to train every day!”
Well, then there is your goal.
3– Create a Routine
In order to have disciplined lives, one must have some sort of a routine, I did not mention it on my ’20 Lessons’ Twitter thread for nothing, it is very important.
Having a routine does not mean each day of you is the same, but if you aim towards a certain goal, then some parts of it must remain the same, otherwise, you’re going nowhere.
Create a routine and follow it.
Work your goal backward, know what you have to do and when you have to do it, and set it on your To-D0 list.
For example, you want to train every day because you have to lose some weight.
If you want to train effectively, you’ve got to set a fixed time for training, every single day.
So here’s how your day will look:
7-8 – Wake up, shower, eat, pray etc.
6-7 GO TO THE GYM
12 Go to sleep
The rest of the time is filled with whatever activities you have to do, but your most important activity is set on your schedule, you do the same, every single day.
The more you do it, the easier it will be to follow through.
I train almost every day, and when I don’t, I feel like something is missing from my life, I don’t even need the energy to execute this activity.
Scott Adams has talked about the importance of creating a system in his book “How To Fail At Almost Everything And Still Win Big“, Highly recommended.
4- Do 1 thing you don’t usually do, And remove 1 thing you usually do
As I said on my Twitter thread, Discipline is like a muscle, it has to be trained with activities you don’t usually do.
Most Discipline programs suggest adding a physical activity, like Push-ups.
It could work, just like anything else you might want to do regularly, like running 1 mile or taking a cold shower.
Don’t go too hard on yourself at first, but increase the intensity as you go
You should also remove one thing you do regularly to establish self-control.
It could be anything.
Personally, I decided to stop using my cell phone while indoors, but you can take anything that bothers you and stop doing it (Masturbation, alcohol, sweets, sweetened drinks etc)
5- Develop Mental Clarity and Awareness
This is the most important step in my opinion.
You should always be in charge of yourself, and be aware of the actions you’re taking right now!
Discipline is the ability to exercise you will over yourself, and do what is right for you over what is easy.
Jordan B. Peterson suggests “negotiating” with yourself, talk to yourself into doing what you want to do.
Personally, I don’t like that attitude, it’s too submissive for me.
I’m going full Tyrant over myself. And if you lack discipline, my method will work better.
In this part, you identify the tasks you have to do, versus what you want/already do.
You basically make a logical choice to do what is right, what you Should do.
I call it the Should/Want decision (I just made that name up, If you have a better name for it, comment below!
I’ll present a few examples of it:
Should – I should go to the gym to exercise
Want/Do – There’s a new episode of my favorite TV series!
Should- I should do my project for college.
Want/Do- These cat videos are hilarious!
Should- I’m hungry, I have to cook myself a healthy, low-calorie meal.
Want/Do- I really want to order Pizza!
That way, you know what you’re doing/want to do now is NOT RIGHT for you, and there’s something else that should be done instead. So you make the active call to do what is right.
Hungry? GO COOK! No Pizza!
NO NEGOTIATING – You don’t start any negotiation with yourself, because your brain will win you with his excuses of why you should delay that activity, why spending hours of watching cat videos on Facebook is harmless to you and how “just this time” is right.
Don’t get into that trap.
You know what you have to do? YOU DO IT. NO QUESTIONS, NO EXCUSES, NO NEGOTIATIONS!
A great book that could teach you about the concept of ‘awareness’ and ‘presence’ is The Power Of Now . If this concept is difficult to you, get that book.
6- Negative Visualization
In the military, when they disciplined us, they had us do activities we wouldn’t like to do.
Nobody wanted to wake up on 5A.M, spend time cleaning rifles, doing 100s pushups a day and do many other chores.
But we did it, why? Because our actions (or inactions) had consequences.
You don’t want to wake up on 5 A.M? You’ll suffer the wrath of the commander.
You don’t want to clean your rifle? You will be punished for that + you risk losing your life in a battle where your rifle might stop, and you won’t be able to return fire.
When you try to discipline yourself, the hardest challenge is facing no direct and immediate consequences.
Don’t want to hit the gym? Nothing happens, no commander will yell at you and kick your ass.
You might have a slight motivation to execute, but you won’t have anything else to kick your ass.
Enter Negative Visualization.
I first learned about this concept from Hunter Drew’s book that I mentioned above. But I took the liberty to alter the concept a little bit to work for that specific purpose.
Just like normal Visualization that is supposed to motivate you to go in your direction, Negative Visualization is supposed to motivate you NOT to stay in the same direction.
As Peterson puts it- You have something to run Towards, and also something to run From.
Referring to step 5, if you don’t feel like doing something, you start the process of negative visualization.
What will happen to your life if you won’t do it? How would you feel? How would your life look if you fail to take action?
That feeling is your consequence, that kick in the ass you need to take to propel you forward!
You are fat and you need to eat low-calorie food, but you want a pizza.
You start to do negative visualization “How would my life look?”
And you see yourself in the future, fat, sick, nobody loves you, no girl wants to have sex with you and you are lonely and miserable.
Does it feel good? I bet not, this visualization should get you terrified, all your excuses will go down the drain.
There you have it people, the ultimate guide to cultivating Self-Discipline.
I laid here everything you can possibly need to become super Disciplined.
Now you have no excuse to fail in whatever you want to do.
Questions? Comment down below.